tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15784074908400633332011-07-07T13:26:43.327-07:00I'm committed to the real, practical possibility that us humans (or drop souls, as Meher Baba calls us) can live with other humans in a way that enhances who we all are and makes for a fair, creative and compassionate world. One step, one person, one day at a time. This Baby Boomer is still crazy after all these years.Kris Hineshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11317081203143834984noreply@blogger.comBlogger11100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578407490840063333.post-15945869017672284852010-06-24T23:33:00.000-07:002010-07-06T02:52:30.642-07:00<em>Hello World - this is my first blog on Blogger, so I'm feeling my way and looking forward to people's responses.</em><br /><br />The Dalai Lama and Buddha, amongst others, talk a lot about kindness. I work in the field of conflict resolution and human happiness (see <a href="http://www.conflictadvice.com/">http://www.conflictadvice.com/</a> ) and I found myself thinking - on the way back from my yoga class the other night - about how much time we can spend keeping a conflict going - I include myself in this; on a bad day I'm my best example!<br /><br />I am <em>definitely </em>not talking about just faking being nice all the time. (I feel strongly about striving to be real - I did come here to be me!) But so often, especially with lower grade conflicts, there is an initial action by someone - maybe they say or do something or push my buttons somehow. Then that incident is over and the real fight begins: head mileage! Something that took 2 minutes to occur now becomes hours, days, sometimes years of fighting and frequently most of it takes place in our heads. I/us humans can get so <em>stuck.</em> Not that our pain isn't real. But it's stuck.<br /><br />My feeling is that this is one of the quickest ways to ruin your own happiness, not to mention health. It really stuffs up the day - the night too if you're arguing head miles instead of sleeping.<br /><br />I've got a happiness barometer that I try to keep operating -if it's too hard to just drop the conflict I attempt to become Action Woman. "Find a way - don't give up. The cost is too great!" I'm a possibility slogan, but it's a challenge I like, with happiness as the payoff.<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1578407490840063333-1594586901767228485?l=krishines.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>Kris Hineshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11317081203143834984noreply@blogger.com0